Good Book on Leadership

I recently read a book called "Leadership and Self-Deception" by t he Arbinger Institute.  The book was published on 2000 however the message and lessons are excellent.  From the Book:

Self-deception is the root of most interpersonal problems. When we fail to do something for another that we know we should do, we betray ourselves and begin to resist the other person; to justify that resistance, we begin to blame. When we blame, we begin to see others in a way to justify that blame, and then we are "in the box." When "in the box," we cease to see reality (we deceive ourselves) and instead create negative interactions with others, shifting focus from attaining mutually beneficial results to blaming one another for failing to achieve results. In short:

1.       An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another is called an act of "self-betrayal".

2.       When I betray myself, I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal.

3.       When I see a self-justifying world, my view of reality becomes distorted.

4.       So - when I betray myself, I enter the box.

5.       Over time, certain boxes become characteristic of me, and I carry them with me.

6.       By being IN the box, I provoke others to be in the box.

7.       In the box, we invite mutual mistreatment and obtain mutual justification. We collude in giving each other reason to stay in the box.